Best deals for Black Friday and After….A Must Read if you want the Best Deals!
As we approach December, the holiday season is getting into full swing, and that means that it’s time to look for some of the best shopping deals of the year. Some of the best deals of the year are found around this time, particularly during the Thanksgiving weekend and through until the 26th of November. Whether you decide to take advantage of the Black Friday rush sales, or want to wait a little longer to do your holiday shopping, this guide will help you to find the best deals, including examples of how you can do your holiday shopping from the convenience of your own home. Black Friday 2017 Black Friday officially starts on November 24, but sales typically continue until Sunday and sometimes even up until Monday the 27th of November. Millions of shoppers around the world hold off on their big ticket purchases for Black Friday, hoping to take advantage of huge discounts on popular products, especially tech items like computers and cell phones. All of the leading consumer electronics retailers, such as Best Buy, offer heavily discounted items for the Black Friday weekend. They have a heavy leaning on modern tech when it comes to their best […]
How Being Thankful Is The Key To Happiness: Tips For A Healthy Mind
By: Stacy Pellettieri, LCSW-R “It is not happy people who are thankful; It is thankful people who are happy.” I’m not really sure who it was that came up with this inspirational quote but it’s hanging on canvas on my wall right next to my front door so I know someone did! Why my front door? So everyday before we leave the house we are reminded to be thankful. I know that the idea that gratitude can lead to happiness is often met with skepticism. I regularly hear people say to me, “Oh, so I just think about good things and suddenly I’m not depressed anymore?” Kind of like that, yes! I wouldn’t say the transition from depressed to happy would be “sudden,” actually it would be more of a gradual transition, but a real transition nonetheless. You can argue with me all you want, but there’s a science to this theory. You see, the brain is full of chemicals. And yes these chemicals determine mood. The neurotransmitters in our brain are constantly firing off different levels of serotonin, dopamine and endorphins. Serotonin is the chemical of mental relaxation. Too little serotonin is known to cause anxiety, […]
Consequences for opting out
Long Island represents one of the most densely populated areas of the United States, and one of the most populated areas by total numbers. Encompassing areas that make up some of the key residential and even political areas of the country, Long Island is often a good benchmark to use when looking at attitudes towards everything from pop culture, to education. It seems fitting then that Long Island has been one of the key battlegrounds for the movement against common core testing. Earlier in 2017, it was reported that almost 100,000 students from the Long Island public school system had opted out of state English Language Arts exams. These students make up more than 50% of the total student body eligible for the exams. The region again made the news in March of this year, when more than 90,000 students opted out of Common Core math testing. It is clear from the statistics that there is shared concern regarding standardized testing in New York State. Parents, teachers, and the students themselves, have openly spoken about a perceived lack of validity in the common testing. Opponents to Common Core also feel the standardized testing can take away the ability of schools […]
How to Handle Stress Around the Holidays
The holiday season is a time when family and friends should be able to come together, relax, and reflect on the year that has been. However, for millions around the world, the holidays can be a time of stress where a lack of preparation could soon derail the spirit of the season. Staying grounded during this time of year is important, and there are some simple and effective steps that anyone can follow to limit or completely eliminate holiday stress. Head into the Holidays with the Right Mindset Some people dread the holiday season and the stress that it can bring. Approaching the holidays with a negative mindset will take the fun and joy out of the holidays, and will lead to subconscious decision making and negative outcomes. Plan to enjoy the holidays and keep the bigger picture in mind. Having a positive attitude is sometimes seen as a cliché, but it’s actually a highly effective way to manage stress, and there’s scientific evidence to suggest that priming your brain for positive experiences will help you to get the most out of any situation. Take Breaks Often and Maintain Focus Although it seems like the holidays should be a time […]
Spotting the Signs of Autism in Children
In the past few decades the rate of autism diagnosis has grown dramatically. In the 1980s, the prevalence of autism was generally recorded as 1 in 10000 children. Today, 1 child in every 88 is diagnosed with the disorder. Thanks to a deeper understanding of the condition, and a wider medical consensus on the warning signs, parents and caregivers can now learn to recognize the signs and take appropriate intervention steps. For any parent that is worried about the development of their child, understanding the key warning signs will ensure that the right treatment can be given. Early diagnosis and proper care will ensure the best quality of life throughout childhood, adolescence, and adult years. Early Signs of Autism That Can Appear Before 12 Months Autism can be diagnosed at an early age, often around the first year of a child’s development. Although the condition can be highly varied between sufferers, the following signs are generally considered to be indicators that autism spectrum disorder exists. The more signs that are present, the more important it is to observe behavior and consult with a medical professional. Lack of Gestures and Common Interactions Developing children share common characteristics before they learn to […]
Where to See Christmas Lights 2017!
Jones Beach Magic of Lights – Wantagh November 17 – December 31, 2017 This much-anticipated event is back this year with all of your favorite holiday characters and the spectacular tunnel of lights. Pile the family into the car and drive through 2.5 miles of light displays with animation that will capture the imaginations of young and old. Bayville Winter Wonderland – Bayville November 24-January 1, but dates/times vary. Captain Bay’s Yo-Ho Holiday Light Show with a pirate-themed light show tells the story of the pirates’ first Christmas. Santa’s Toy Factory Fun House boasts bright florescent-colored walls that can be seen in 3-D with glasses. Wander through a tricky hall of mirrors and then to Santa’s workshop as you listen to the sounds from the North Pole. Other attractions include Blizzard Bay’s Arctic Skating Adventure, Holiday Express Train Ride, and Magical Meeting with Santa. Festival of Lights – Freeport Woodcleft Ave. December 2, 2017, 7pm This unique event showcases festively decorated boats. Boat owners go all out with lights and decorations in this parade along the Nautical Mile in Freeport. Homes along the parade route also join in with backyards adorned with lights. Bundle up for some FREE […]
What Every Child Should Know About Handling Bullies
BY: Stacy Pellettieri, LCSW-R When we become parents, we take on the role of loving, protecting, teaching and guiding our little ones through life. When they are small we can protect them from almost everything. But this imaginary bubble we place our children in inevitably pops and they become vulnerable to the world around them. Their very first encounter of the world without our protection usually starts in the school setting. And unfortunately, it usually doesn’t take too long before they come face to face with their first bully. It’s not uncommon for us, as parents, to feel completely helpless when our children come home telling us stories about their peers “being mean.” We have no control over the things other children do and say. And the subtlety of today’s bullying makes it difficult for the schools and parents to have a proper handle on things at all times as well. What do I mean by subtle? It’s when a child is told they can’t join their peers in the playground to play a game because there is already enough players. Or “no, you can’t play basketball with us after school because you’re too short and no one […]
Should Children Be Forced To Share?
Should Children Be Forced To Share? By: Stacy Pellettieri, LCSW-R Getting young children to share is no easy task! As parents, we just want to do the best we can to raise kind, caring, successful, happy, well adjusted kids. Simple enough, right? Not! When you see your precious little one at the park bouncing the ball they brought and their friend asks for a turn and they say, “no”, you are mortified! “Oh no!” My kid is mean! How can this be? What will everyone think? I didn’t raise him this way and I need to make sure everyone knows I do not approve of this immediately!” Your mind starts racing. You are embarrassed and desperate to show the other parents that you do not approve. You are scared that you haven’t been teaching your child the right way to behave and others won’t want to play with him. You attempt to force what you believe is the more acceptable behavior on your child before you are both judged by the other playground moms. So, your reaction may sound something like this… “You need to give Johnny a turn with the ball. It’s not nice not […]
What every Parent Needs to Know about ADHD
By: Stacy Pellettieri, LCSW-R Clinical Director and Founder Long Island Counseling What most people know ADHD to be is an impairment in one’s ability to focus and to remain seated. Simply put, when we think of ADHD we think of the child that exhibits an exuberant amount of energy and can’t pay attention. Although this is accurate, it really is just scratching the surface. What most people don’t know is that ADHD is an impairment in executive functioning. If you have a child, spouse, family member, friend, or coworker with ADHD and you aren’t sure what this means then it’s time to learn! Understanding ADHD and ALL of its symptoms will not only help you to support your loved one, but will enable you to cope with how difficult it can be to remain patient and calm. So what exactly are executive functions? Executive functions are mental or cognitive abilities to create and follow through on goals. We’re talking about emotional regulation, time management, self awareness, motivational levels, problem solving, self control (or impulsivity) and memory. The frontal lobe of the brain monitors and controls these major functions. The ADHD brain does exhibit an impairment in some or sometimes all […]
ADHD & Lying
Let’s jump right into this, the ADHD brain has many symptoms and one of them is LYING. Like most symptoms it is important to remember that symptoms can’t be helped. For instance, if you have a cold your nose may begin to run, if you have ADHD in addition to a variety of other symptoms lying happens to be one of them and here lies the problem that most parents ask: How do we deal with my child’s constant lying. Consequences, Consequences, Consequences……sorry folks that’s not the answer. It seems logical that if your child does something wrong or lies that you should punish them, take away their games, no cell phone or early bedtime. I hate to break it to you but we have all been doing it wrong. Most kids lie but when kids with ADHD lie, it’s not always about major things like stealing or cheating. Instead they may lie about any mundane thing like making their bed or walking the dog. This type of lying isn’t meant to defy you. It’s about their coping skills which when you have ADHD is like climbing Mt Everest in 10 seconds to them, something that seems impossible to […]
Back to School
The flexibility of the summer brings with it later bedtimes, a tendency to sleep late in the morning and an overall dismissal of the structure and routine necessary to learn and grow during the school year. The shift from spontaneity and free play into organization and order can be a difficult transition for us, but even more so for our children. Easing back into the demands of the school year doesn’t have to be such a challenge. Here are some tips to consider for easing the whole family back into the swing of things: The Bedtime Switch: Start sending the kids to bed a little earlier each night until they are back into their school-time bedtime. For example, if your child needs to be in bed by 8:30 on a school night, but has been going to bed at 10:00 all summer, don’t go abruptly from 10-8:30. What will happen, is that your child is used to shutting down later and they will find themselves tossing and turning feeling restless and unable to fall asleep. Do a gradual decline starting at 9:45 one night, 9:30 the next, until they are back to the 8:30 bed time. It would be ideal […]
The Holidays Are Coming! Tips To Avoid Stress This Season
The Holidays are, unfortunately, known for creating an enormous amount of stress and anxiety, especially for us moms! However, something I would like for you to keep in mind as this season rolls around, is that it’s not the holidays creating the stress…it’s YOU! Stress comes from our thoughts…the “shoulds” and “supposed to’s” we create in our minds. The pressure we place on ourselves is what takes the joy out of the holidays. Now don’t let this discourage you or use this as a reason to beat yourself up. You see, the realization that we create the stress ourselves also indicates that we are in complete control of how we are feeling. Our emotional state can be manipulated just by changing how we think. That’s right, we determine our own happiness and well being. I know it may sound difficult, but I am here to help. Here are some simple tips that may help to ease the stress and create more happiness this holiday season: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS PERFECT: Whether it is the need to host the perfect gathering, the pressure to invite everyone, the need to please every family member, the mission to buy everyone the perfect […]